Friday, August 9, 2013

What You Must Do To Get Him Back .... And Stop Listening To Your Girlfriends So Much!

How can I win back my boyfriend? My girlfriends offer advice but it never seems to help. I know they have my back but I need to be steered in another direction. - Wounded in Wylo, Susanna.

Susanna,
You are correct in realizing that your girlfriend can steer you in the wrong direction. It is intentional, sure. But their well meaning advice could even be steering you in a completely wrong direction.

It is heartbreaking and very difficult to breakup with your boyfriend. It seems all you can think of is getting him back.

Girlfriend can be a great comfort in these trying times. They can listen and give you a shoulder to shed tear upon. They care about you and can help you get through long days and lonely nights.

They want to sincerely help you and offer the best advice they know. But there is one big problem.

The advice they offer is based on a female point of view. It is based on the rules girls play by. And those guidelines can prove very ineffective when you want to get back together with your boyfriend.

You need to know the Boy's Rules. 

1) Never let him see you coming. Your number one priority right now is to get him back. That means you have to dedicate yourself to the task. But, you have to do it in a way that doesn’t look like you’re trying to get him back. Don’t show your hands because he’ll constantly be watching and waiting for you to make your move.

2) Show the world you’ve moved on. This includes your girlfriends. Smile. Go out and join the crowd. Fake it until you have everyone convinced that you truly have moved on.

3) Let him know you’ve got game. All the time that you’re trying to show everyone you’ve moved on, you need to invest in making yourself over from the inside out. Become the stronger, more independent woman you’ve always wanted to be. Get a makeover. Change your hair style. Learn to walk in those six-inch heels guys love so much. Become confident in your own skin. Once you’ve accomplished all this – then you let him see you coming and watch the fireworks as he takes in the new you.



Why is this so Effective?

In relationships, you often begin to take each other for granted. The more you learn about each other, the fewer mysteries there are to uncover. You’re presenting him with a whole new you and many more mysteries to unlock. It’s a curious mystery he’s powerless to resist – especially if there ever were genuine feelings on his part. And your girlfriends? They love you regardless of whether you take their advice or not.