Are Your Irreconcilable Differences Really Ireconcilable?

"Irreconcilable Differences" ... It is such an unnatural buzz phrase that has seemingly become so fashionable in our modern world. It is something to hide behind in many instances. Something to keep from saying in plain English just what the problems are.

I suspect that many of the married folk that are heading to divorce are summing up the failure of their marriage behind this vague term. But are the differences really so irreconcilable or has divorce just simply become the path of least resistance and the easy way out for a stale marriage?

Maybe your marriage has been stamped "IRRECONCILABLE" and is heading for divorce. But perhaps you have a quiet voice in your soul that whispers, " It is not so."

If this describes you, perhaps it is time to step back from the divorce march and re-access your marriage. Is it worth saving? Are the difference really irreconcilable? Or can the marriage be saved?

She Says She Wants a Divorce - What You Can Do To Stop It

This time you have really done it, right? You screwed up badly and she is fed up and wants to divorce you! She is tired of being treated like a "second class citizen". She is tired of your controlling ways. She says that she is sick of all your stuff and tired of having to deal with you. She is so fed up that she is threatening to dissolve the marriage.

But you do not want that. You want desperately to stay together and work things out. But how do you turn things around and convince her to stop the divorce plans? All the things you are trying now are not working, are they? This article will highlight a few methods and strategies that you can employ in order to give you a better chance to stop the divorce.

First, let's take a look at the type of things that just don't work when the marriage has become this broken. Sending flowers or saying, "I love you", are usually regarded as empty and manipulative gestures at this point. Such superficial actions can just cause continued resentment. They will just cause her to resist any changes in her present attitude.

Another ineffectual way of trying to restore the relationship is to tell your wife that you will change your behavior. You can expect her to meet this re-assurance with disbelief and even contempt. Talk is cheap and you had better believe she knows it!

The issue in your marriage is one of control. Whether you mean to or not, you have become controlling and even manipulative. You have not given your wife equal footing in the marriage. She has a need to be listened to and respected. For whatever reason, this need is not being met.... and it is getting old, real fast!

In order to stop the divorce talk, she needs to change her mind. Get it - she needs to change her mind. Any attempts by you to change her mind for her will only be met with resistance. You need to give her the time and space she needs to work things out. Be agreeable and sincere with her. Show her you respect and value her opinion. Cease all the controlling behaviors of the past and allow her to be a full and equal partner. That is how it always should have been anyway.

If you have been guilty to dominating and controlling your wife, stop it. If you want to stop going down the road to divorce, start treating her with sincere respect. It will yield more results than empty words and a room full of flowers.

Are You Wondering If Your Boyfriend Truly Loves You?

It is common in relationships for a little doubt to creep in from time to time. At times you may find yourself wondering whether or not your boyfriend truly loves you.

You may try to dismiss the question from your mind and think you are being quite silly, then something occurs - or fails to occur - and you find yourself returning to this same question. Does he really love you? Perhaps these four simple questions can help you settle the question once and for all.

When you gaze into his eyes, does he look straight into your eyes? While gazing romantically into one another's eyes can be a demonstration of your love for each other, it is not fool proof. Yes, his ability to gaze lovingly into you eyes can demonstrate his devotion to you. Likewise, a beau that can not seem to look you in the eyes could be deceptive - or just bashful. There are certainly instances whether his averting his eyes reveals an overwhelming love and attraction. You really need to interpret how he reacts to you based upon his personality.

Does he show you respect? This is a much more concrete sign of whether or not he truly loves you. Is he honest and open with you? Does he value your input and opinions? Are you his confidante on a wide range of matters? Do you support each other through life's challenges and obstacles? Respect can be shown in a multitude of ways and your guy should be showing your much respect if he really is in love with you.

Does he make time for you? In our hectic world, there never seems to be enough time in the day. We are continually juggling our schedules - deleting this and moving that. The question is: Are you the one getting deleted and moved around?

While there are sometimes that it is really is an unavoidable conflict, taking the back seat on his schedule too often can be an unconscious signal that he really does not love you. It is at the least a subject that you need to bring to his attention. Give him a chance to mend his ways and show you he really loves you and just got caught up in things.

Does he remember those special, romantic days? Does he still remember the special days you share from anniversaries to birthdays. Does he do his best to make you feel special at these times? His track record on these special days can give you an insight into his heart.


While these four questions can help you resolve the question that has been troubling you, always keep in mind that they are only a guide. You must interpret them and apply them to your guy. You know your boyfriend better than anyone else. You must use your powers of discernment to ultimately determine whether or not his love is yours and only use these questions as a helpful guide.